4 Keys In The New Relationships

 New Relationships

 

* Authenticity
* Sovereignty
* Compassion
* Joy! Joy!


* Authenticity 
In the old consciousness relationships it was much about hiding who you truly were, in order to be accepted or appreciated by another, in order to fit in with society, or in order to have a false type of security and protection. In the old relationships one would either control or repress their energies to fit in, and this was mostly because of the underlying feelings of shame and blame, these feelings that lie heavy amongst mass consciousness. Deep underlying shame in oneself caused one to either control or repress their authentic expression. This shame would play out in the old relationships, where one person would play the controller and the other would play the represser ( or one the abuser and the other the victim....or the one the blamer and the other the shamed).

The controller would use means to dominate or manipulate the other and the situation, they would play out the blame and shame in an outward way. And the represser would would hold in the pain, and run and hide, and cover up true feelings, and would play out the shame and blame in an inward way. Shame and blame, which are both the same thing, just that shame is inward and blame is outward, masks the truth that we are sovereign creators, it masks our authentic expression.

                       Authenticity

The way out of this old game of shame and blame is authenticity. In new relationship authenticity is the key, it is about honesty, it is about living your truth and authentic expression without compromise, it is also about taking responsibility for your creation and not putting the blame on somebody else and not allowing the illusion of shame (that you are doing something wrong) to drown your true expression.


* Sovereignty

In the old relationships it was much about dependency and feeding, and "what can i get from this person to fulfill and feed my needs". In the old relationships one would compromise who they were because they felt powerless and felt they had no choice. In the old relationships one would sacrifice them self for the relationship, giving oneself away. Before realizing sovereignty one does not live as "God Also", "I Am a Spirit", and one will sacrifice themselves for another or for a "Higher Purpose" because of the belief is that God is outside of them, separated from the wholeness. So one depended much on what was outside and what was out there in order to feel whole and fulfilled.

You Are Whole And Complete

 Now in the new relationships sovereignty is key, in sovereignty no feeding takes place because one realizes they are whole and complete, there is nothing one needs outside of themselves to live in wholeness and no longer is there a dependence on others to fulfill ones needs, one now does this for their self. And this sovereignty is pure freedom as we are no longer bound or chained to another and we can fly free together in the new. 


* Compassion

In old relationships it was about conditions, "i love you only when you are a certain way, and if you change, I no longer give you my love." Conditional love lacks freeness, and it is setup to bound one to outside circumstances. It is the love of outside attachment to limited formation. 

Be Compassionate

In the new relationships is a deep unconditional love that is called compassion. This compassion is so very important in the new relationships, it is about honoring another's choices whether you agree with them or not. It is the deep unconditional love that allows others to be who and what they are without judgment and expectation. It is the allowing and acceptance of another in whatever it is they choose to express and create for him or her self. This compassion is the most freeing of love and it is the essential ingredient for the new and divine relationships.


* Joy! Joy!
 
In the old relationships it was much about obligation, drama, and expectation. Doing things because one somehow felt guilty or obliged to. These old relationships were based much around expectation, expecting things to be a certain way, expecting another to act a certain way, or even expecting the relationship to become a certain format (such as marriage) and all of this would bring up a lot of drama to feed on. And many times in this old one would sacrifice their joy to keep the relationship going in the same way because of the fear of the relationship ending.

Joyful Relationships

In the new relationships, ah! joyful interactions! This is what the new relationships are all about. It is about choosing to interact with another only if it brings you great joy to do so. There are no feelings of obligation or expectation, just a freeness of expression and playfulness, where all interactions and exchanges are done with joy and play with none of the attached drama. And the joy is the spontaneity that keeps the new relationship alive, moving, and continually flowing. So look forward to lots of fun adventures ahead in the new relationships, Ah! Joy!.


  

 
   
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